Divorced parents never stop being moms and dads. Even after their children are grown and their child support and custody agreements are no longer applicable, parents may still feel that they have financial obligations to their children -- or at least want to help them pay for college or their first car or home.
If you're a divorced parent, you may feel like you're competing with your ex-spouse for your children's affection. This may be particularly true if you only have custody of your kids on the weekends and during school breaks. You may hesitate to assign them chores that they're used to doing in their other home. You'd rather spend your time together doing things that they want to do.
When expecting a child or when their children are still very young, a parent will sometimes make the decision to take some time away from the workplace to stay home and care for the kids. Sometimes, they will move to a job where they can work from home or part-time. Others, if the family can afford it, will take a sabbatical from their career completely.
When courts are called on to make decisions regarding child custody, the overriding consideration is what's in the best interests of the child. Ideally, both parents are able to have some kind of relationship with their children, even if one parent gets primary custody and the other only has visitation privileges. In cases where neither parent is physically and/or emotionally equipped to safely care for a child, a court may award guardianship to a third party, such as a grandparent.
While many people are able to go through a divorce without enduring a trial, there are some who must have the court determine the outcome. If you think that you and your ex won't be able to work things out together, you should start to prepare for the possibility of a trial. We know that this might not be a pleasant experience, but we can try to help make things less stressful for you.
Coming up with the terms of a parenting plan isn't going to be easy if you don't get along with your ex. One thing that might help everyone involved is if both adults decide to keep everything respectful. This might not be easy, especially when tempers flare, but making a concerted effort can make things less stressful. We know that you might need some assistance with this matter. We are here to work on your behalf to come up with the terms of the agreement and to hash out the more challenging matters.
A co-parenting relationship isn't ever easy, but it is necessary if you share children. Having an ex who is harassing you can lead to even more challenging situations than what you would normally have to deal with. There really isn't room in any parenting relationship for one parent not treating the other with complete respect, so you should think carefully about how to handle it if you find yourself in that situation.
We understand. Life happens while you're busy making plans. There are always times when it's easier to plead with your co-parent to swap visitation or custody time in order to accommodate scheduling conflicts.
Remaining flexible is a big help when you are in the midst of a child custody situation. It is imperative that you follow the rules and guidelines that are set by the parenting plan but being able to adjust those to meet your child's needs can benefit everyone. One area that you might need to alter every now and then is the parenting time schedule.
Family law issues can be complex because they deal with many different lives. This can make it a challenge when you are trying to come up with options to handle various aspects of child custody and divorce. Instead of only having to think about yourself, you might have others to think about. Of course, if you are divorcing and don't have children, you only need to protect your own interests.